'Mummy wars' - I call bullshit

Do you breastfeed or bottle feed? Are you a SAHM or working mum? Do you co-sleep or cry it out? 

This constant separation into polarising groups is total bullshit.

The idea that the hundreds and thousands of new mothers every year will easily fall into opposing sides on every single parenting decision is the most absurd claim that has made it into urban myth.

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Why did we first start writing birth plans?

Ever wondered about the history of Birth plans?

Why do women spend all this time in pregnancy listing the different things they want (or want to avoid) in their pregnancy, birth or with their new baby?

This short lecture starts the discussion about the history of birth, human rights in childbirth, informed consent - and where birth plans might fit in with all this

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10 ways to give birth like an anarchist.

Ask questions. About everything. Literally everything. “what are you doing? why are you doing that? What other options do I have? Are there any risks with doing that? What else can you do instead?” Ask questions about where you birth, when and with whom. Ask what the evidence is and if there is any contradicting it. Learn about levels of evidence and recommendations in pregnancy. Know your hospital's policies on induction, monitoring, appointments, home visits, breastfeeding and bottle-feeding, support people, bed sharing, everything. Read every one. And learn the difference between policy and evidence.

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The imperfect mum and the art of wabi-sabi.

From what I understand (and I can’t make this clear enough - I am absolutely not an expert in Japanese culture or language) this process is aligned with the concept of Wabi Sabi- or perfect imperfections. Essentially treating breakage and repair as an important element of the object's history and journey instead of something that should be disguised or worse- cause it to be discarded.

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The problem with recommendations

Probably one of the biggest decisions we make very early in our pregnancy is deciding where we will have our baby and who will look after us. To further complicate the matter, this decision may have the greatest impact on how our baby comes into the world and how we are prepared for and supported in our mothering (or fathering).

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Making difficult decisions

In other areas of health, we might have the opportunity or feel secure in asking for second opinions, researching other options or just saying no. When we are having a baby however, quite often our default position is to give our decision making and reasoning over to the "experts". After all we don't want to make the wrong choice... and what do we know?

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If I read one more post about a mum breaking down I’ll cry.

I have definitely spent my share of hours being the miserable know-it-all sadly “helping” another mum by explaining that unfortunately the exhaustion she is experiencing is normal, and yes she is isolated and overwhelmed, however, her baby is healthy, growing well and acting exactly as a baby of that age should

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3 ways inducing your labour might not be what you expect (and what you can do about it).

Thinking the day you are booked to come in for your induction is the day you will be handed a baby? Although it IS possible, it is unlikely that's how things will go. Understanding what an induction actually involves can help make sense of this.

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100 ways to care for yourself (even when you have a child with you)

Self-care is something we should be doing each day. The little things that bring joy into our lives are so important. If you are not up to the big adventurous things that is fine, hopefully, you can find a few small things that you enjoy and can start to weave them into your every day. Feel free to...

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