Posts in choices
We need to talk about 'difficult women' being punished in our medical system.

Hospitals are interesting places where the rules of the real world are suspended. There is a new language to learn, unwritten and uncommunicated expectations on women and families to behave in certain ways, and punishments when the behaviour of visitors doesn't comply with the new norms. 

 Women are stripped of their names, clothes and autonomy. Rebranded 'mummy' or 'honey' because who can keep up? (I was recently working with a medical student who asked me, "if I don't call her the lady in bed 6 what do I call her?)

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'Mummy wars' - I call bullshit

Do you breastfeed or bottle feed? Are you a SAHM or working mum? Do you co-sleep or cry it out? 

This constant separation into polarising groups is total bullshit.

The idea that the hundreds and thousands of new mothers every year will easily fall into opposing sides on every single parenting decision is the most absurd claim that has made it into urban myth.

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Why did we first start writing birth plans?

Ever wondered about the history of Birth plans?

Why do women spend all this time in pregnancy listing the different things they want (or want to avoid) in their pregnancy, birth or with their new baby?

This short lecture starts the discussion about the history of birth, human rights in childbirth, informed consent - and where birth plans might fit in with all this

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The problem with recommendations

Probably one of the biggest decisions we make very early in our pregnancy is deciding where we will have our baby and who will look after us. To further complicate the matter, this decision may have the greatest impact on how our baby comes into the world and how we are prepared for and supported in our mothering (or fathering).

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